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DEAR HARRIETTE: My daughter is dating a man who is 17 years older than her, and I am livid. I told her that neither of them is likely in the relationship for honest reasons as he is a wealthy man and she is in her mid-20s.

I don't want to meet this man, but my daughter wants me to. She insists that I am judging their relationship before I've ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: My son is having a difficult time finding a job after graduating with his computer science degree. He graduated last May and still hasn't been able to land a job after applying to more than 400 job postings. He has been beside himself with anxiety, stress and embarrassment. Not being able to find a job has heavily affected his ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: My husband asked me for a divorce and then a week later he said he changed his mind and wanted to stay with me. I now want to divorce him because that was such an odd change of heart that I don't think his motives to stay with me are good ones. He keeps telling me it was a mistake and he said it in a moment of weakness. He says ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: My neighbor's child recently vandalized my fence and got caught lying about it. My husband and I have security cameras, so when we first saw the damage to the fence, we immediately went and checked them. We clearly saw our next-door neighbor's child do it purposely. We went over to their house and asked if anyone in the family ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I went to Ariana Grande's concert at the Barclays Center in Brooklyn. I had an amazing time at the concert, especially since she's my favorite singer of all time. As a result of my excitement, I felt the need to purchase a $50 T-shirt. When leaving the concert, I made it all the way out of the arena before realizing I left the ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: My brother and his wife came up to stay with me to celebrate my sister-in-law's birthday. My family and I mapped out a fun itinerary covering everything they mentioned wanting to see. It's safe to say some money was spent in the making of this production. Unfortunately, though, at home, we found ourselves in disagreement on a few...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I'm struggling with a friendship that used to mean a lot to me but now feels increasingly one-sided. This person was once one of my closest friends, but over the past several months, I've felt more neglected than valued. We live less than 10 minutes apart, yet we've seen each other only twice in nearly eight months -- and both ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: A few months back, my boyfriend was laid off. He's done his part to manage financially, but emotionally he's been rather down, and it's put a lot of pressure on our relationship and me. With less to do, he wants more of my attention and to spend more time together. Unfortunately, my schedule and responsibilities haven't changed. ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: My current form of birth control is about to expire, and my partner does not want me to renew it. He knew this time was coming, but it feels like he deliberately waited until just a few days prior to my procedure to tell me he doesn't want me to renew my birth control. It feels as though if I move forward with the procedure, my ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: My boyfriend proposed to me at my best friend's wedding, and I am livid at him for thinking that I would like this type of proposal. It was such a distasteful idea on his part, because I am the type of person who hates to take away attention from people when it's their special day. My boyfriend did ask permission from my best ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I've been going out with a guy for a few months. We aren't anything official yet, but my birthday is coming up, and he asked me what I want for my birthday. I said I wanted a surprise. When I said "surprise," I was thinking that he would take me to a cute restaurant or ask me what I've been wanting to do around New York City, ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently went to the bank with my dad to finally separate our accounts. He opened my account for me when I was in high school, and now that I'm a working professional, I felt it was time to have full independence. During the process, the teller shared details about my account balance in front of him, which made me uncomfortable...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: During July 4th weekend, my 16-year-old daughter went up to her best friend's cabin. I was under the impression that her parents were going to drive my daughter and her friend there since it's a four-hour drive and both girls have had their licenses for only a few months. Instead, my daughter's friend drove her up to the cabin. ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I consider myself to be a social person. I recently moved to a more rural area in an attempt to experience a new way of living. I think there's value in all different types of lifestyles, even those that are often seen as less glamorous. My new neighbors have made this town feel like home within a matter of weeks. Although it has...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: My boyfriend of six months wants me to share my location with him, and I'm not so sure I want to do that. I know lots of families, friends and couples do this for safety, but I don't feel comfortable sharing this because I am a grown 35-year-old woman. I don't think anyone should be allowed to stalk my location. I told my ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been struggling with anxiety for years now. As those who experience anxiety know, it ebbs and flows depending on a plethora of factors both in and out of my control. My anxious thoughts stem from a childhood with many unexpected and uncontrollable changes. As a result, feeling unsure or not being able to predict what's ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I just found out my friend is dating a guy I slept with a couple of years ago back in college. None of my friends knew; it was a one-night stand, and I was too ashamed to tell them a secret that I thought would never resurface. Now, two years later, one of my best friends is seriously dating the guy. They've been going steady for...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a gay man who's been in a relationship for two and a half years. My partner is definitely a great match for me. He recently asked to meet my parents, expressing his desire to get to know my family and roots a little more. I appreciate his interest in my background, as I think it indicates that we are moving onto the next ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I think my sister hates me. I'm in college right now, and my sister just finished her freshman year of high school. When I was away from home, she made new friends and started getting into trouble. A few months ago, she ran out of a gas station with a case of alcohol and was chased by the police. Luckily, the cops felt bad ...Read more

DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently was in a relationship with a boy who was never officially my boyfriend. However, we went on dates almost every week and often hung out. We progressed like this for three months until he went radio silent. I was hurt at first, especially since he made it seem like he wanted more. My friends even thought that he was more...Read more